It’s a scary notation to think of a baby, a new born baby left out in the cold wrapped in a plastic bag left to die next to or in a dustbin, or left on the floor of a public restroom after being born. Just left there abandoned, cold and ready to take their last tiny little breath.
If you are a mom – just reading the above has made your skin crawl right?This is the horrid reality for many newborn babies.
The moms’ aren’t mental, many of these cases are young moms (older woman would have the gumption to know to cut the umbilical cord or financially stable enough to at least get themselves and baby to the nearest police station or clinic etc). It is a sad reality that many teens are sexually active. It is also a sad reality as to how many parents are in denial that their child, their angel is sexually active.
I while back I asked the teens in my family if they knew where the closest Free Clinic was…I heard crickets! There was silence. We are an average middle class family who reside in good suburbs in Johannesburg.
The girls didn’t know where to go for free contraceptive or condoms.
I looked back at my own teen years. I knew where the free clinic was (I was lucky enough to live a block away from it)but with crime being the way it is – we were never allowed to walk anywhere, when we wanted to go to movies our parents took us and dropped us of. When we wanted to go to a friend’s house, our parents took us and dropped us off. I believe that this is still the reality today…it has to be!
So even if these girls know where the free clinic is how do they get there?
Next, you will say – this only happens in townships or in poorer areas.
Sorry dears – nope it happens right here in our own streets.
There was a baby girl with her umbilical cord still attached wrapped in plastic, that was found by a lady walking her dog in Bassonia (there are no shacks in Bassonia, generally speaking the kids that reside in this areas attend private schools or one the good government schools in the area).I cried for days , this baby was brought into the world to leave it in such a horrid way. I was heartbroken. This baby was white – just clarifying this for those still in denial that this happens just outside their front doors.
The next Winter (in fact I recall it to be the coldest day that winter) a little baby boy estimated to be hours old was found dead in a park dustbin by a hobo in Linmeyer – I was done I had to do something. This baby was either white or coloured it was undetermined.
The race doesn’t matter, a baby is a little angel and none deserves this, nobody deserves to be born and died like this – there is no need for them to die.There are so many couples who are not able to conceive and have children of their own.
What infuriated me most was the fact that there is a home for abandoned babies in our area (THE DOOR OF HOPE) there are two actually in Glenvista.
I made a promise that I would never have to read these terrible stories again.I wouldn’t allow another baby to lose its life this way. I met with the Ladies from the Door Of Hope that very week.It got me thinking as to why then were the children still left to die this way.
How will a teen mom who has just given birth find a way to get to Glenvista or any home for abandoned abuse with a new born in her arms?What would she do? Call a friend and ask if the friends older brother would just give her a lift somewhere?She has kept this secret for all these months.Doubt and shame gets me to think that nobody not even her bff will know that she is or ever was pregnant.
Now for those who are moms – imagine going through the process of birth without anything – I’m talking from the start no prenatal care,then the day arrives – those contractions come, you stuck in your room – your parents asleep in the very next room, you muffle the sounds of the pain with your cute heart shaped pillow as you sit on the floor panting. It’s time to push, the pain is excruciating you are all alone.Your Algebra homework lies open on your bed above you.
There’s that push the baby is on the floor eyes open – fear creeps in what if the baby cry’s what if mom and dad hear. Your after birth comes out and you able to get up and go into the bathroom to clean yourself off and get a towel.
What do you do? You remember the dustbin you have driven past so many times on your way home just a block or two away. You open the door take mom’s remote control and walk out the gate. Rushing down the road to that dustbin, blood trickling down your legs as tears run down your face. You there, standing in front of that dustbin and you place that baby on top and run back home as fast as you can, get into the shower and was it all away.
Days later, your mom asks if you’ve seen that missing towel. You shrug your shoulders why would you know????
(The above is fictional – but paints a pretty scary scene – and I’m sure that I’m not too far off the mark)
WHATS THE FACTS
1)Kids know that they shouldn’t be having sex but they are, they should be having safe sex but they not.
2)They getting pregnant and keeping this a terrible secret
3)They killing their babies because they don’t know that there are these homes they can drop them off at (they don’t even hand then to people there’s a box in the wall, a blanket inside for the awaiting baby- you place the baby in there and inside the home a little light alerts a person that there is a baby in the box ready for collection.BUT theres no way to get there no matter how close to theses home you may live)
WHATS THE SOLUTION
1)An sms line (anonymous) a line where these girls simply sms when and where they have dropped of the baby be it on the side of the pavement or in a dustbin or park or side of the highway.
2)A team of volunteers will receive the coordinates and whoever is closer fetches and attends to the baby.
3)1st Aid – all volunteers will receive Paediatric 1st aid as well as a kit that they carry in their vehicles at all times
4)A Infant car seat – all volunteers will receive a baby carrier to be kept in their vehicle at all times.
5)Once the volunteer has the baby they will then take the baby to the nearest ER and child services takes it from there.
HOW CAN YOU HELP
1)Teach each teen girl you know the sms number, especially the girls from Grade 10-12 as they will be leaving school soon and encountering other girls they will befriend from different walks of life. Help them be a good friend to another girl who might have gotten herself in this poor situation.
2) Donation of clean Infant Carrier chairs
4) Preemie Nappies and New Born Nappies
5) Paediatric 1st aid kits
6) A new laptop – at this stage I will be receiving all smses to my email but my goal is to get a stand-alone laptop with its own email so that I can rotate to volunteers on call.
SMS Number : 33903
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